How To Deal With People That Try To Bring You Down

Negative people are a significant source of pessimism in most peoples lives.

There are many types of pessimistic people including those who you may share ideas with only to have them tell you that you will never achieve your goals. Or people may want to put you in a bad mood do to the fact that they are not happy with their life and misery loves company.

Types of People

It is important to note that most people who attempt to bring you down can be distinguished by their intentions and classified as follows:

The Pessimist

The most common type of person that attempts to bring you down does so because he himself is down. This type of persons thoughts are habitually pessimistic. This person may or may not intend to bring you down, however does so because their emotions are down and emotions can be contagious.

Solution: Dealing with these people can be difficult, however the first thing to do is to try to get these people to give up their pessimistic ways. If the people don't want to hear it, then communicate with them less. If this fails, it may be necessary to sever the relationship temporarily or permanently. You must realize that your happiness cannot be transferred to another individual and that individual must recognize his pessimism and improve himself.

The Emotional Manipulator

The next type of person who attempts to bring you down is the emotional manipulator. This person attempts to control you in every way by altering your emotions in every way possible to help them achieve their purposes. Most often their purpose is selfish and negative. If they believe it helps them to make you feel happy, then they will make you feel happy, however if it helps them to make you feel guilty, they will make you feel guilty.

Solution: The approach with these people is to get them to learn to recognize their manipulative behavior. The next step is to avoid them completely. If you are unable to avoid them, talk to them very little. Remember people don't change.

The Jealous Person

The jealous person will try to bring you down because he is jealous of your success or talent and simply does not want you to succeed. These people are often called Haters. Once this person is spotted, their pessimism should be overlooked and avoided.

Solution:Their negative feeling is actually a compliment that should balance out the jealousy. Think about where you are, where you are going and where they are and where they are going. You will quickly feel compassion for them.

The Sociopaths

This last type of person is the least of the group. The sociopath does not have the normal feelings of empathy for others. This person lacks a sense of moral responsibility or social conscience.

Solution:The only way to deal with these individuals is to cut them out of your life completely. They will lie, cheat and steal from you. Therefore, even if they are family members that you are not responsible for, they must be cut out.

In Summary

Many people exhibit some or all of the personalities types listed above. It is necessary to analyze the individual very closely. Ridding yourself of pessimistic and negative people is an ongoing challenge however will make your healthy, happy life much more fruitful. People who bring you down are probably the greatest source of pessimism and negativity you have in your life now. Personal relationships are very influential on our outlook.

People that bring you down must be taken seriously. Determine their intentions quickly and decide how best to deal with them. Never let these people continue to bring you down because they will not change despite what they say.