Many of us are pestered throughout our daily lives by people seeking money on the street, at the mall, outside the restaurant wherever. Most of us, say no politely most of the time, however many of us become very annoyed and frustrated with the persistent requests. Following is some very straightforward advice on how to get people to leave you alone!
These techniques also work against the numerous salespeople in certain touristy areas alway trying to sell you the fake rolex or jewelry. Both situations can be a constant annoyance in certain places. Please pay close attention to these tactics as they will help you live an unmolested life and productive day.
Looking at a person draws immediate attention to yourself. To avoid, the attention, do not look at anyone. When they are immediately in front of you, look far beyond them. When people look into each others eyes it invites confrontation or conversation. Depending on the situation confrontation or conversation can be a very bad thing.
When you have your headphones on, people will be less willing to talk to you because they know you can't hear them. To get something from them, you would need to scream at them, which they will not do. To be most effective, this should be combined with the rule "Don't Ever Look Directly At People." You just need the headphones on, there does not have to any music playing. The experienced panhandler knows that the odds of retrieving something from an individual with headphones is almost impossible.
This face can be worn all day, whenever and wherever. For girls this face actually works around guys very well, and for guys this face is very effective around girls. The true intention of the face is to show a would be person asking for money that you are not to be bothered right now. Again combining rules 1., 2. and 3. will yield the best results.
This includes: Change, keys and ammunition, etc. Any noise will invite a person asking for money to request the change in your pocket. People will focus on the noise and react to it, therefore, it is best to never have items that make noise in your pocket.
When there is a little doubt in your mind, as you are walking and looking straight ahead, if you see someone that may be a salesman, continue looking dead ahead until with 10 feet. Then glance at them with a cold sinister look and hold it for a second. then quickly look away. The look on your face should be one of disinterest and irritability.
As you walk through the streets, if you are conversing with friends, people will think that you will be polite to them. When walking in silence however, people are going to think that you guys are miserable and will be more apt to leave you alone.
Once this vibe is emitted within a 10 foot radius, this can be the most effective approach. It is usually pulled off best by those that are genuinely in a bad mood or just utterly miserable people.
Most of us will be hassled by these people, however remember that if they do penetrate our walls and actually engage in conversation with us, there is always the "No Thanks" at any point during their speech before walking away. Remember these people respond positively to perceptive interest and if you show no interest, they will leave you alone.
With a little practice, you too will learn how to avoid the distractions and walk down the street unmolested!
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If you really want people to
If you really want people to leave you alone you can opt for a personal fashion signature that is distinctly your own and so totally different from everyone else that you will never be mistaken as someone to take advantage of or manipulate. Perhaps you could wear a crude weapon around your neck or wear black clothes all the time. Or simply never speak to anyone at all, or only use short abstract words to communicate, like "No or I'm not sure." If you do have to talk with someone, especially someone you don't want to know, it is usually important to be as direct as possible. There is nothing wrong with simply saying the words "Leave me alone." Sometimes those words speak for themselves, and if the person you are dealing with has any comprehension at all, he or she may get the point.
My favorite response to beggars:
......."Oh..wow...... You need money? I just saw McDonalds is hiring..go down there and get a job!......................."
That always shuts them up.
My Favorite is Tip #6...
My Favorite is Tip #6...
What an awesome list. The
What an awesome list. The tips will come in handy sometime, I'm sure of it....but as with everything I will use it in moderation, after all....you wouldn't want to never talk with anyone....how boring that could get :P
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